Do you really know your spouse?  When you go out together is it silence?  Do you feel like you never talk? Knowing someone is a lot more than knowing what their favorite color is.  It's knowing their stresses, their wants, their fears, their ambitions, their dreams, and so much more.    In John M. Gottman's book "The Seven Principles for Making a Marriage Work" he talks about love maps.  Without a love map you can't really know your spouse.  Couples who have detailed love maps of each other are more prepared to cope with stressful events and conflicts.
It is important to continue to know our spouse and ask questions.  People change and so do our wants and dreams.  Stressful things happen all the time to our spouse that they may not share unless they are asked.  Being and feeling understood brings great happiness to a relationship.  Getting to know each other shouldn't be a chore.  It's a way of strengthening a bond.
  Continuing to get to know each other can be fun.  It can be in the car while taking a trip, it can a reason for a date night.  It could also be fun to involve the kids on some of the questions.  Getting to know our children better can only strengthen the bond and relationship as well. The questions asked should be open end conversations not just "yes" or "no" answers.  The questions that are asked should stir up conversations and lead to more questions.

   I felt like I knew my husband pretty well.  I did answer the Love Map Questionnaire with a high score but I still missed some of the questions.  Even though I scored high and the scoring said that "this is an are of strength in your marriage."  I still felt like I had room for improvement.  I want to know everything I can about my husband.  I want to strengthen our relationship and not be that couple in the restaurant who don't talk.  I am going to do the games and ask my husband the questions that Gottman suggested, after all, it can't hurt, it can only strengthen a relationship.

To take Gottman's Love Map Questionnaire go to:
 https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-sound-relationship-house-build-love-maps/